“We’re not 21, but the sooner we are the sooner the fun will begin” — Dashboard Confessional
Alright everyone, we’ve got our first question! I’m very excited and I think it’s a good one. So here we go.
Hi,
I’m a divorced male, age 30, 2 kids. I meet a lot of
great women around my age, but to be honest, they kind
of bore me to tears.
I’ve been told I’m charming, handsome, and look
younger than my age (people think 25 - 28 usually).
Do I have a chance with any of the hotties floating
around? And if so, what do you think my best approach
is.
I’m on staff, with a good job.
Board Stiff
I hear you Board. You know, one of my favorite things ever is to browse Raleigh’s Craigslist and look at the personal ads, and from that, eh hem, research, I can assure you that you aren’t alone. With the high rate of divorce, and so many young people getting divorced, daters like you are in luck. Marriage these days has become sort of a catch and release type program, but that means that desirable dates such as yourself are back out there in the dating pool, and that gives you a better chance of giving romance another go.
So you’re bored to tears? What is it exactly that bores you about these women? What could they do that would excite you?
I’m going to sound like a generic advice columnist here, but maybe to meet more interesting women, you’ve got to do more interesting things. Like women who can talk about music? Hit up some good concerts. Maybe you like sports. There are community teams for adults. Maybe there’s an interesting woman at Starbucks reading a book you’ve been wanting to pick up. Start up a conversation.
The bottom line is, of course you have a chance. 80 year old men in nursing homes are getting dates to Bingo! and you’ve got 50 years on them. I’m not saying that the 19 year olds with those lower back tattoos showing fake I.D.’s at Top of the Hill are going to knock you down like you’re in a Tag body spray commercial, but truth be told, you’re 30, and those girls would bore you to tears too.
Dating is just like it was when you were in high school — most people go through a lot of dates to find someone they click with. Don’t lose hope, and the most important thing I can say is keep trying. Don’t be afraid to go on bad dates. Put yourself out there, and sooner or later, you’re going to find someone who is not only interesting, but a “hottie” too.
So thanks for your question Board. That’s the first question guys, so keep writing, and I’ll keep answering. And look for an updated format too. We’re going to make this blog a little Prettier.
– Alicia
September 24th, 2006 at 10:06 pm
hey alicia,
I am your cousins friend. I mean Andy. He referred me to this site to read your column. I think that your advice will be very helpful for “Board Stiff” and even though i am not 21, I think that it would be helpful for me if i were. I would have never trusted a personal but you seem to be so confident toward their abilities. Naturally i have never been on one, but once again if i were of that age… .Well thats all that i have to rave about, You definately know how to write a good advice column and know how to refer to commercials.
Thank you,
Brian
October 7th, 2006 at 8:46 pm
Alicia,
I will have you know that Top of the Hill has never admitted an underage drinker ever, especially not a slutbag sorostitute with a lower back tattoo and a fake I.D.
To even suggest such a thing is outrageous, and in pure violation of your journalistic ethics. Next thing you know, you’ll be telling us that Los Pos doesn’t card, frat boys tend to be douchebags, or guys that pick you up at Players won’t call you back the next day.
Please reconsider your priorities before making such baseless accusations.
Thank you,
Jeff Smith
DTH Opinion Editor